Summary[ edit ] Tannen's chapters, which are broken up into short titled sections of two or three s, start by distinguishing what fr and women seek from conversations: independence and intimacy respectively.
For most women, the language of conversation is primarily a language of rapport : a way of establishing connections and negotiating relationships For most men, talk is primarily a means to preserve independence and negotiate and maintain status in a hierarchical social order. Men and women both perceive the other gender as the more talkative, and they are both accurate, since studies show men speak more in public settings about public topics while women dominate private conversation within and about relationships.
The latter is frequently derided as gossip by both genders, and Tannen devotes an entire chapter to exploring its social functions as a way of connecting speaker and listener to a larger group. Men often dominate conversations in public, even where they know less about a subject than a female interlocutor, because they use conversation to establish status. Women, on the other hand, often listen more because they have been socialized to be accommodating. These patterns, which begin in childhood, mean, for instance, that men are far more likely to interrupt another speaker, and not to take it personally when they are themselves interrupted, while women are more likely to finish each other's sentences.
These patterns have paradoxical effects.
Men use the language foe conflict to create connections, and conversely women can use the language of connection to create conflict. Reception[ edit ] The book was well received by major media outlets. The New York Times called it "a refreshing and readable of the complexities of communication between men and women. Many readers thanked her for saving their marriages.
Her readable anecdotes support unjustified generalizations that fail to take ethnic differences into. In one she uses in both a scholarly article and her book, a man interrupts a joke his wife has begun telling to finish it for her.
The article explains the man's behavior as chatt display of dominance, while the book simply suggests the two have different understandings. By Gabrielle Moss Oct. I don't mean that in some gross, off-putting "I don't get along with other women because I am way too sexxxy" kind of way — most of my friends do happen to be women.
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You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation is a non-fiction book on a woman complaining about the lingering effects of a medical procedure, who may merely be seeking empathy from female friends by doing so,. For most of my life, I've been a woman with male best friends. fog khakis to buy (try to talk him out of the ones with the pleats kindly, if you can).
Originally Answered: Is it possible for a girl and a boy to become best friends without falling in love with each other? And I can talk almost everything with him. With males and females of any age, this is only possible if they are not attracted.